Hi y’all! One of the topics requested by some of the people that took my survey earlier this year was how to prepare for a relationship even while you are single. So that’s what I want to write about today: 5 things to do as a single girl to prepare for a relationship! It’s not an exhaustive list, but just a few things you can begin doing today.
I think it is so important to be intentional in the seasons we are in and to use them to prepare for our next seasons. However, just a disclaimer, please don’t think of your single years as only a training ground for marriage. Your single years are more than just preparation for marriage and God has so much to teach you and so much for you to do right now. And your single years can be fun!
Related: 10 Fun Things to do as a Single Girl
How to Prepare for Marriage While You’re Single
1. Grow in intimacy with Jesus
Literally the BEST thing I did while I was single. And not just to prepare for a relationship! Growing in intimacy with Jesus should be the foundation of our whole lives, or the main goal of our lives.
In a relationship, this intimacy with Jesus helps to keep you grounded when emotions are high, He gives you wisdom and direction in big decisions and in creating boundaries, and it takes so much pressure off of your man to fulfill you.
Just remember, this intimacy is important to continue cultivating even when you’re in a relationship. Start making it a habit now to spend time with Jesus daily!
2. Pray pray pray!
About everything. And I really mean everything!
Pray about your hopes, dreams, expectations, goals, disappointments, and potential guys. Pray for your future husband. Pray for your future relationships and marriage. Pray for the fight for purity. Pray for strength, contentment, joy, peace, and fulfillment in Jesus.
3. Manage those expectations
I’ve mentioned several times that I am the worst at high expectations. Like I said in this post, I thought that I got a good grip on these expectations when I was single, but they still managed to creep in once I started dating. So while working on managing high, unrealistic expectations may not mean they will completely disappear, it does make a huge difference. And when you are in a relationship, you can just keep working at it the same way! I recommend you read this blog post on how to manage expectations as a single girl!
4. Chase God’s plan for your life
Please please please don’t put your life on hold until you are in a relationship. Its tempting, I know. Especially when your dream is to be a wife and mama! But please hear me: you need to be following God’s plan for your life wholeheartedly right now. We were created to seek first the kingdom of God (Matt. 6:33), not to get married. One day it may be God’s plan for you to do just that while being a wife, but right now you get to do it as a single girl. And I pray you will do so with joy and hope!
5. Work on your character
Let’s become the girls that the men we are looking for are looking for. We can’t have a list of qualities that we want them to have without also taking responsibility for our own character. So let’s work on being selfless, humble, generous, genuinely loving, etc!
Please remember, though, that you aren’t working on your character just for your future husband. It’s ultimately for God and His glory!
My friend Michaela wrote a guest post a couple of years ago that I think is super helpful for implementing this point: 5 Ways to Prepare for Marriage as a Single Girl.
Bonus: Maybe think about writing letters to your future husband
This may not be for some people, so I didn’t want to include it as a main point, but I think it is so special to write letters to your future husband! It doesn’t have to be often, and there’s not really a formula to follow. You could write them on notebook paper or write them in a nice journal. But its a way to keep yourself focused on the kind of man you want to marry, and it will be so cool to look back on one day when you are married. And it will be so sweet to give them to your husband on your honeymoon!
I hope you enjoyed this post on things to do to prepare for a relationship as a single girl! It is so helpful to begin preparing now.
With all my love,