Actually, can we just remove wait from the title? I don’t think that being single is all about waiting. Yes, most of us probably will get married one day, but it’s not promised. I think that we should be living life to the fullest right now, whether or not we will ever get married. This season is so unique and special; full of opportunities and freedom.
Can we just take a moment and look at our purpose here on earth? It’s to know God and make Him known, essentially. Not to get married 😉 I think a lot of us, me included, have equated our purpose in life to getting married, whether that is consciously or subconsciously. But there is so much more to life!
So today I wanted to talk about 5 ways that we can live life to the fullest, whether or not we will get married. This season of your life should be about thriving, not just surviving.
But first, if you are struggling with being single now, here is a letter I wrote just for you. We’re in this together, girl!
Okay, let’s get to the points!
5 Ways to Live Your Single Years to the Fullest
1. Cling to Jesus
Right now it’s just you and Jesus. I know, you’ve probably heard this so often that it gets on your nerves. But if you think about it, it’s true. Of course you have friends and family, but there is probably no one that you have to talk everything through with etc. In marriage, that will be a great blessing, but right now it’s just Jesus.
Lately I’ve really been seeing this season of my life as one to grow closer to Jesus. I’ve been trying to be super intentional and it’s paid off so much. I’ve never been closer to Jesus than I am today!
Last month I went through something where I could have gotten upset with God and walked away, or I could learn to trust in Him and cling to Him. I chose the second choice, and I am so glad that I did. Intimacy with God is so sweet. Honestly, the more I learn about Him and the more I cling to Him, the more I fall in love with Him and feel Him with me.
And one more thing, I think that the closer I get to Jesus the “easier” it gets to make decisions. Of course, it still takes a lot of prayer and counsel, but I am in step and tune with Jesus so a lot of times it is clear what I am supposed to do. This has helped with discernment for guys in my life 😉
So be intentional about growing closer to Jesus! It will be so sweet now, and also be beneficial when you are married.
2. Surround yourself with good friends
I can’t tell you how grateful I am for the friends in my life! They have really helped shape me into the person I am today. I highly encourage you to find friends that encourage you in your walk with Jesus and who also have fun with you. In this season of your life, you have freedom. So get coffee with your friends, go on a trip, do a Bible study, and host a dinner party. Just do life with these friends.
I know it can be tough to find friends sometimes, at least good friends. But don’t give up! Join Bible studies, be proactive, do internships, and be the friend you wish to have. Sometimes God does lead us through times of loneliness to learn something or grow closer to Him. But pray for that community, it is so sweet!
3. Find a mentor
Finding an older, wiser woman to mentor and encourage you is so valuable! Honestly, my mom is this woman for me. The wisdom that she has shared with me, especially in the last few months, has been so amazing. I don’t think that I would be the same person that I am without her advice. Sometimes she encourages me, other times she calls me out for something that I need to work on. I’m grateful for both!
So please, find an older, wiser Christian woman that you can talk to about life. You can find someone in your church, it could be your mom, or somebody else you know. It doesn’t have to be awkward. Just ask if she’d be willing to give you advice or just listen to you. Being teachable is such a great quality you should aspire to have.
4. Live out the Great Commission
I think we as modern day Christians have really become too comfortable in our faith and churches that we do not do what Jesus has commanded us to do- preach the Gospel to every creature and make disciples of all nations (Mark 16:15 & Matthew 28:18-20). I know most of us probably think that missions trips are when we should be sharing the Gospel, and while that is true, we should be doing it everyday!
As Americans, the mission field has come right to our front doors, literally. As a single girl, you have such freedom and flexibility to share the Gospel. It is not complicated- share the simple Gospel or your story. The Evangelism Handbook is an amazing book on the topic, and this website is a great resource to help share the Gospel!
5. Have fun!
Be intentional with becoming who God wants you to be, but also have fun in this season! I think God really intended for us to have fun in life while also serving Him.
So go on that trip you’ve always wanted to go on, pick up your favorite coffee on the way home from work, go out with your friends to a fancy restaurant, stay up late talking and eating junk food with your best friend, and even go out on dates with guys you are interested in.
Have fun and enjoy life! Make the most of every moment and do everything for the glory God (1 Corinthians 10:31).
JORD Wooden Watches $100 Giveaway!
So I have teamed up with JORD to give one of you a $100 giftcard for the watch of your choice! I actually have 2 of these watches myself and they are the best quality. Each of them is made from beautiful wood and are so unique. You can see pictures of one of my JORD watches throughout this blog post. I have the Cassia series Zebra and Ivory.
So about the giveaway! All you have to do is enter through this link– it is super simple. Oh, and even if you don’t win the $100 giftcard, you will still get a 10% discount code. The giveaway ends November 25th and winner will be contacted by email. Good luck!