It seems that so many girls now will give anything to find love or acceptance. They run to anything they think will fill that void in their hearts- more clothes, drugs, popularity, a skinny body- but mostly guys. Am I right?
I think we’re all guilty of trying to find love that will fill us up, especially if we are single. I know I am guilty! We want a guy to make us feel loved and fulfilled, don’t we?
But we’re looking in all of the wrong places.
The truth is that nothing in this world will ever fill us up. If we look to material things or people to fill the void in our hearts, we will always come up short.
But don’t lose hope now!
There is something, or should I say Someone, that can fill that void in our hearts. It’s Jesus.
Jesus is the protagonist in a story that otherwise would have no hope. He comes in and saves you from yourself, and instead of punishing you for everything you’ve ever done wrong, He lavishes you with love. God calls you chosen, worthy, and fearfully and wonderfully made.
He hates seeing you lonely, desperate, and purposeless. Instead, he desires to see you full of life, love, joy, and purpose.
And did you know that is totally possible with Him, even as a single girl? I wanted to share with you 5 things that God will give you as you seek Him, and how to make the most of them. Let’s get started!
God will fill you up with His love.
God lavishes so much love on us y’all. I’ve heard it said that God loves us more in a moment than we could ever love Him in our lifetime. Isn’t that the coolest? And all you have to do is accept His love. I think it’s the most simple, yet maybe the most difficult thing on the list. We don’t feel like we deserve His love, and in turn give up on it, or even try to earn it.
But God gives us so much grace, and patiently keeps pouring out His love on us.
Just accept it. Bask in His love. Know that He loves you without borders or qualifications.
“There is no fear in love; but perfect love casts out fear, because fear involves torment. But he who fears has not been made perfect in love. We love Him because He first loved us.”
1 John 4:18-19
God will fulfill your longing and desires.
I know that as a single girl, you’ve definitely longed for and desired a boyfriend. But God wants to take those longings and desires and complete them. He’s the completion.
Will the desire to be married go away? I don’t think so. But the desires are more pure. In my Interview with Shelley Black, the author of Savoring Single, I asked her if the desire to be married goes away. Here is her answer:
“I whole-heartedly believe that marriage is God’s idea and a beautiful gift for our human experience. I believe I will get married and that a husband is part of God’s plan for my life, but I am ever thankful that “I found the one whom my soul loves” in Christ, first. I am happy to spend the rest of my life cultivating my love for Him, whether or not a husband ever comes along.”
“and you are complete in Him, who is the head of all principality and power.”
God will give you purpose.
You know, marriage isn’t our main purpose in life. I used to think that marriage was like the ultimate pinnacle of my life. The peak of the mountain that I had planned for myself. But it’s not.
Even if you feel like God has called you to be a wife and a mom, it is not your main purpose. It is an amazing calling, and a wonderful way to live out your purpose. But knowing Jesus and making Him known is your true purpose in this life.
So as a single girl you truly do have purpose! Know Jesus and make Him known. And you have a unique way of doing that!
“”Go therefore and make disciples of all the nations, baptizing them in the name of the Father and of the Son and of the Holy Spirit, teaching them to observe all things that I have commanded you; and lo, I am with you always, even to the end of the age.” Amen.”
God will give you joy.
I don’t know about you, but sometimes I wonder if I could be happy if I never got married.
Or maybe now you aren’t happy and hope a boyfriend will change that.
A boyfriend or husband in itself is not going to bring you joy. Maybe happiness, but not joy. Remember, only God can fulfill you. The attraction may eventually fade, and you may face the same joyless life that you had before you met your guy. Except now you’re married to him.
God’s joy is everlasting. It won’t change in the different seasons of your life. And again, God just wants to freely give you His joy. All you have to do is accept it with a grateful heart.
“You have put more joy in my heart
than they have when their grain and wine abound.”
God will give you direction.
This may not have a ton to do with you being single, except for the fact that He will guide you where you need to go. You don’t have to sit around waiting for a guy. You don’t even have to “put yourself out there”. He has it all planned out and will guide you!
But truly, God will guide you in this life and give you direction. He has a special plan just for you. I encourage you to seek His will for you and follow Him, even when trusting Him is hard.
“Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways acknowledge Him, and He shall direct your paths.”
You don’t need a relationship to find love, fulfillment, purpose, joy, and direction. You just need Jesus! Isn’t that such an encouragement?
Which of the above do you find the hardest to accept and believe? The easiest? What else do you think should be on the list?
This was part 3 of my Singleness series! Here are the other posts in the series if you’d like to check them out:
Stay tuned for next week! I’ll be talking about what attributes to look for in a future husband! To get an email when I post, just sign up on the sidebar of this page (if you’re on mobile, just scroll close to the bottom).
With all my love,