Have you ever felt like your mind was a battleground? Whether you don’t know what to do or you’re confronted with sin? I think this is probably the hardest part about being single for me. I’m a dreamer and that can get me in trouble sometimes haha! But guarding your mind as a single girl is so important!
So if you are…
- dreaming impurely about your crush
- thinking negatively about your singleness
- figuring out if you should keep seeing that guy
- trying to come up with reasons that he is a good guy 😉
- overcoming jealousy or comparison
- dealing with guilt
- dealing with any other situation that truly feels like your mind is a battleground
this post is for you.
I’ve been there. And sometimes my mind can still feel like a battleground. I feel one thing, and I know its not right, but I just can’t seem to stop thinking about it or actually do what I need to do. Sound familiar?
Today I want to share some tips that have helped me to guard my mind as a single girl. Sin starts in the mind, so let’s kick it to the curb before these thoughts materialize into sin! These tips for guarding your mind as a single girl may seem simple, but they are powerful.
Guarding Your Mind as a Single Girl
1. Remember God’s truth
This is HUGE. Having Scripture memorized can be so important when you are stuck in a moment when you don’t know what to do or begin thinking impure thoughts.
Also, even if you don’t have verses memorized, picking up God’s Word and letting His truth replace your sinful thoughts or dreams is so helpful!
I highly encourage you to go to God’s Word when your mind feels like a battleground.
2. Have wise people you can talk to
This is also so helpful! Find at least one person (although more than one person gives you different insight and advice) that you can talk to about what’s going on. When your mind just feels so overwhelmed, they can be there for you to help you sort it all out.
I always suggest going to Jesus first, but He gave us community in order to sharpen (Proverbs 27:17) and encourage us.
These people could be people in your church, a parent, or even a friend who’s life reflects Jesus. If you don’t have somebody in your life that can offer you wisdom, I highly suggest getting our of your comfort zone and finding these people. They are invaluable!
3. Be proactive
Does that music make you really want a boyfriend that will sing about the little things he loves about you?
Does that movie or tv show make you discontent with your singleness?
Do romance novels cause you to falter or sin?
Do you see where I’m going with this? It is so important to know what your triggers are and to avoid them. Am I saying that you cannot listen to country music anymore? No. But maybe you should only listen to it in moderation and not listen to it when you already feel down or vulnerable. Your purity is more important than doing whatever you want to do.
Journaling can help get your jumbled up thoughts out of your head and out on paper. Seeing it all laid out can help a ton in making a decision or just clearing your mind!
I am convinced that introverts need to work on talking out their problems with trusted, wise people, and extroverts need to work on journaling out their thoughts. Both are great things!
5. Pray about it
Why do we sometimes neglect this?? Praying about your situation, praying when you need help resisting temptation, or praying for peace is honestly so necessary.
And don’t just shoot up a quick prayer and then get upset that God doesn’t help you. Sometimes (actually, a lot of times) it takes fervent prayer. 1 Thessalonians 5:17 doesn’t say we need to “pray without ceasing” for no reason!
Remember, you are only as safe from sin as you are close to God.
I hope that these tips for guarding your mind as a single girl encouraged you!
Remember that the devil likes to make you think you are the only one struggling with these things and that there is no way out. But there is (1 Corinthians 10:13). He wants to help you make the wrong decision. But God wants to guide you (Proverbs 3:5-6). These tips can help you resist the devil. Remember, he has to flee when you submit to God (James 4:7).
In this with you,