As Christian girls, we’re told to stay pure, right? Especially as Christian single girls. But how are you supposed to do that as a single girl? Staying pure is so much easier said than done, isn’t it?
There are so many times as a single girl that staying pure is not the cool thing. It is not what feels good in the moment, and it is not the popular choice. Other times it is much easier.
But either way, staying pure is so important, and if you don’t prepare now, then you may cave later. So I wanted to give you 7 ways to stay pure as a single girl!
How to Stay Pure as a Single Girl
1. Guard Your Heart
If you’ve read any of my other posts on being single, then you know I am a huge advocate of guarding our hearts as single girls! In Proverbs 4:23, God told us directly to guard our hearts, and I truly think it is for our own protection. When you allow your mind to wander, share deep secrets with guy friends, or seek too much attention from guys, you’re setting your heart up to be broken, not to mention they are not pure actions.
You can read my post on guarding your heart here!
2. Set Boundaries
There truly is freedom in boundaries y’all, even if you don’t see it now 😉 There is room to thrive and grow within them. To remain pure, it is so important to give yourself boundaries! Do you lust while watching romance movies? Then maybe you shouldn’t watch them. Does listening to love songs make you dream about guys too much? Maybe listening to worship songs instead would be better. The same could go for romance novels, friends you hang out with etc. You know what your “thing” is!
3. Surround Yourself with Godly Friends
1 Corinthians 15:33 says that evil company corrupts good habits, and that is SO true! Have you ever been around a bad group of friends and been encouraged to stay pure? I know I haven’t. It’s the opposite! But when you surround yourself with good friends, they encourage you to remain pure, even if they don’t necessarily do so verbally.
4. Have an Accountability Partner
This one can be huge! Have somebody that you can talk to when you are tempted, or just to help encourage you in your walk of purity. She could be your friend, who is also striving to live a life of purity, or a mentor like your pastor’s wife, youth leader, or mom!
5. Keep Your Thoughts Pure
I touched on this one earlier, but it is so important I wanted it to have a point to itself! Your thoughts are truly who you are. I love this quote by Margaret Thatcher:
“Watch your thoughts for they become words. Watch your words for they become actions. Watch your actions for they become…habits. Watch your habits, for they become your character.”
Your thoughts pretty much determine your life of purity, so watch what you dwell on!
6. Stay Plugged into the Bible
“Your word is a lamp to my feet and a light to my path.”
God’s Word guides us in everything, even if it is just general. But it actually has a lot to say about staying pure! I encourage you to study the Bible on your own, not only to find out what it says about purity, but to keep you focused on Jesus! That helps a ton when seeking to remain pure.
If you need some help studying the Bible, I have a free resource you might like! It’s called 5 Ways to Dig Deeper into the Bible. If you sign up for my newsletter by clicking the image below, you’ll receive the password to my free resource library by email!
And pray a ton! 😉 It will help keep you focused, and God will totally help you out. He wants you to live a life of purity!
Well there you have it! I truly pray that these tips help to encourage you to live a life of purity- physically, emotionally, and spiritually!
Here is a list of all of the posts in my Singleness Series if you need to catch up:
Interview with Shelley Black + Review of Savoring Single
How to Guard Your Heart as a Single Girl
Where to Find Love and Fulfillment as a Single Girl
8 Qualities to Look for in Your Future Husband
How to Pray for Your Future Husband
How to Thrive as a Single Girl on Valentine’s Day
So, are you going to use any of these tips as you seek to remain pure? Which is your favorite? Would you add anything? I’d love to hear from you in the comments!
Stay tuned for next week’s post, y’all. It is a guest post by my friend Michaela, and let me tell you, it is so good! She is giving us 5 ways to prepare for marriage as a single girl!
With all my love,
Tags : devotion, encouragement, future husband, lifestyle, singleness
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Thank you so much!!
Hi. As someone unfortunately very experienced with this battle, I am encouraged by this post, and would like to share my thoughts in detail. Will you allow me to be very honest here? I don’t want to violate your moderation standards.
Hi! I would love for you to share your thoughts, just please be appropriate for younger readers. Thank you!
Thankyou this has been very encouraging. I find the Accountability one the hardest, as this is a taboo topic in my community. To talk about it is a shameful thing. Your thoughts have helped me. 🙂
I’m so glad it was encouraging! Accountability is also the hardest for me, but it’s so worth it. Prayed for you!
Thank you for your encouragement, Allison. I am a Christian guy trying to stay pure. It’s not easy, and sometimes it feels like trying to walk this life out leaves you on the outskirts at times. Please keep me in prayer. I can feel a strong attack from the enemy to get me off course…and of course he won’t focus on the consequences, just the easy path of disobedience. Be encouraged in your faith. 1 Peter 5:7 – GOD CARES!
You’re welcome! I just prayed for you!