Over the past couple of months, we’ve explored so many different aspects of being single. I hope you’ve enjoyed it as much as I have! For this last post in my Singleness Series, I wanted to give you 6 ways that you can truly thrive as a Single Girl. Because that’s the point, right?
This season is just as important as when we get married! When we do single right, we set the foundation to do marriage right.
And you know what? Being single can be fun. I pray that you will be encouraged by this post, and that you’ll see being single as a blessing, not a curse!
How to Thrive as a Single Girl
1. Get to Know God Well
Now is the perfect time to grow closer to God! You have more time, more freedom, and it’s just you and Jesus. Take advantage of it.
Spend time in prayer first off. I have been using the Daily Grace Co.’s Prayer Journal, and y’all, it has been such a game changer! It keeps my prayers focused and intentional. I’m not saying that you need to buy that prayer journal, but I encourage you to make time for prayer! You could also just pray freely, use prayer cards, or write them out in a journal.
Also, study the Bible! That is how you will truly get to know more about Jesus, His life, and His character. If you need some help studying the Bible, I have a free resource for you! Just click on the image below to sign up for my newsletter, and you’ll receive the resource library password by email.
2. Be Adventurous
Like I said before, you have more freedom now than you will when you are married. So use that freedom and be adventurous!
I mentioned in my guest post for the Little Faith Blog, 6 Things to do as a Single Girl While Waiting for Your Future Husband, that you should save up for a trip you’ve always wanted to take! It could be a vacation with friends, a missions trip, or a even a trip with your family.
Try new restaurants, make new friends, lead a Bible study. Do what sets your soul on fire and truly honor God with the freedom you have!
3. Surround Yourself with Godly Friends
I know it can be very tough to make friends, especially good friends. I encourage you to seek them out now as a single girl. Go to church, participate in Bible studies, and say yes to those coffee dates.
Initiate conversations and truly be a friend! Remember, your vibe attracts your tribe.
Oh, and don’t focus on trying to have tons of friends. You may just have one good friend, and that’s okay. It’s all about quality, not quantity.
Be proactive, but don’t become discouraged if you don’t meet friends right away. Sometimes God allows us to go through seasons to pull us closer to Him and teach us something.
4. Focus on What You Have, Not on What You Don’t
As a single girl, it is so easy to focus on wanting a boyfriend. I mean, obviously we’d like to be loved by that special guy.
But I encourage you to focus on what you do have right now. I’m sure that if you look around, you will find so many things you can be thankful for! Keep your focus and your mind on those things, and write them down if you need to.
Every day you could write down 5 or so things you are thankful for. That really helps you to focus on your blessings!
5. Serve Others
It is hard to focus on yourself when you are busy serving others. Use this season as a single girl to serve others. Here are a few ideas to get you started!
- Babysit for the tired young mom at church
- Bake cookies for your pastor’s family
- Make your parents coffee
- Volunteer at your church
- Read a book to your grandparents or another elderly person
Even Jesus came to serve and not be served. Let’s use this time to do good for others!
6. Develop New Skills
I probably sound like a broken record, but let me say it one more time- you have more freedom right now as a single girl! Use it to learn something new.
Don’t know how to cook? Ask somebody in your family or church to teach you. Learn skills that could someday benefit your marriage and homemaking!
You could also learn to paint, play an instrument, blog (I highly recommend it 😉), or anything else you’ve been wanting to do.
I hope these tips truly encourage you to thrive as a single girl! This season is good and special. You’ll never get the time back, so savor it!
I also encourage you to check out my friend Shelley Black’s book Savoring Single. It is the BEST. You can read a review of the book and an interview of Shelley here!
Which of these tips were your favorite? Would you add anything? I’d love to hear how you are thriving as a single girl!
Well, that’s a wrap on my Singleness Series! I loved it and definitely will write on the topic again sometime. I hope you all enjoyed it! Here is a list of all of the posts in the series in case you missed any:
Interview with Shelley Black + Review of Savoring Single
How to Guard Your Heart as a Single Girl
Where to Find Love and Fulfillment as a Single Girl
8 Qualities to Look for in Your Future Husband
How to Pray for Your Future Husband
How to Thrive as a Single Girl on Valentine’s Day
7 Ways to Stay Pure as a Single Girl
5 Ways to Prepare for Marriage as a Single Girl
My Guest Posts:
How to Get Over a Guy You Know isn’t Good for You
6 Things to do as a Single Girl While Waiting on Your Future Husband
With all my love,
Tags : devotion, encouragement, future husband, lifestyle, singleness
I’ve loved all these posts. Great work, Allison keep it up!!
Thank you so much, Kristen!!
The fearless gal says
Hi Allison! New in your blog and I loved it <3 A year ago I couldn't believe what you were saying, I didn't want more "free time" for myself haha, but I found so much treasure in this season when I gave it to God and started striving for knowing him deeper after my first break up. I wouldn't change a thing! It's amazing the beautiful things you can do for God in this season, I love the ideas you gave, definitely feel more inspired to dig deeper in my relationship with God!
Hi Alessandra!! Yes, I think the time that you are single is so important and can be fun, depending on your perspective!
Thank you for your comment!
This is a great post! I think it’s great you’ve got a good mindset when you’re so young!
Awe thank you so much!!
Great post! And also, your picture is so adorable, I love the necklace!!!
Aw thank you so much! 🙂