Well y’all, I guess I was teasing when I said that my series on being single was over. God must have wanted y’all to hear this because I went through a rather uncomfortable experience that taught me how to trust God with my love life- and I feel that He wanted me to share how you can trust God with your love life. So here it goes!
Last Monday, a guy started texting me. My aunt knew him and thought we would get along well, so after talking to my mom about it, she gave him my number. Before we started texting, all I knew is that he liked to workout (that’s how my aunt knew him), he went to church, and he was shy.
We found out while texting that we had some things in common, like having been homeschooled and enjoying nutrition. We were talking about church, and so we decided to meet at my church on the following Sunday.
I was so nervous y’all. And excited. But mostly nervous! I’ve never had a boyfriend before, so he would have been my first.
So we met. And it went pretty well. We talked about working out, church, and work. Super interesting stuff 😉
After church, he left very quickly. He shook my hand and my parents’ and sisters’, looked at me and said “see you later”, and left. It was then that I wondered if I’d ever see him again.
Honestly, I don’t think I ever will see him again. He never texted me again.
That does hurt to say, but I do want to say this to be fair: we come from a bit different church backgrounds, so he may just not have liked the church. I’m not sure the exact reason and I probably never will know it all!
When my aunt asked him about how it went, he just said that we didn’t have much time to talk.
But I learned so much from this experience. First off, I learned more about what I do and don’t want in a guy- doesn’t every guy teach us that? 😉 And second, I learned more about trusting God with my relationships and love life.
I had to keep reminding myself of God’s promises and faithfulness, and how His plans are better than my plans. Because honestly, I liked this guy. There were a few things I wasn’t sure about, but I did like him. I got my hopes up, only to be let down. And it hurt.
But I know that God has a better plan for my life, better than I could ever imagine. I know He will work things out for my good, which is ultimately for His good.
So today I want to share with you 4 ways to trust God with your love life!
How to Trust God with Your Love Life
1. Remember His promises
God is so faithful, y’all. He has given us so many beautiful promises in His Word, and I think it is essential to remember His promises when we need to trust Him with anything- whether its your love life and relationships or not.
Here are some of my favorite promises:
- He will direct our paths (Proverbs 3:5-6).
- He will never leave us nor forsake us (Deuteronomy 31:6).
- He loves us with an everlasting love (Jeremiah 31:3).
- He will provide us with everything we need (Philippians 4:19).
- He will work all things together for our good (Romans 8:28).
I encourage you to look up more of God’s promises and write them down. That way you can look back on them when trusting God feels too hard!
If you’re struggling with feeling loved in your single years, read Where to Find Love and Fulfillment as a Single Girl
2. Recall His past faithfulness
God has been fighting for and pursuing you since the moment you were conceived. Salvation in itself shows how faithful God is to you.
Who God is should be enough of an incentive to trust Him, but sometimes as humans we want something tangible to look to. That is when it is perfect to remember all that God has done for you. It reminds you of what He has done and that you can trust Him again. It will help you to trust God with your love life.
Here is another story of how God has been so faithful to me in the past: How to Trust God Even When It’s Hard
Seems so simple, huh? But it may be the most important on this list.
Have you ever thought about how crazy awesome it is that we have direct access to the God of the universe through prayer? He wants to hear from us, both when we are just conversing with Him and when we need something.
So I encourage you to pray, to connect with God, which always makes me feel close to Him and more prone to trust Him.
Also pray that He will give you the strength to trust Him with your love life. He loves helping us become more like Him.
4. Look to the future with excitement
“She is clothed with strength and dignity;
She can laugh at the days to come.”
God has something so special planned for us! It won’t be perfect, because we live in a fallen world, but it is going to be so good.
I think part of trusting God is looking to the future with excitement, not worry and dread. We know that He is going to work out everything for His good, and in that joy is found.
So get excited and look forward to the wonderful future God has for you! He loves you and has your best interests at heart. Don’t give up on the wonderful plan He has for you. It is one of a kind, and meant to bring glory to His name. He loves you.
Do you struggle with trusting God as a single girl? Which of these tips are the most helpful for you? Would you add anything? I’d love to hear from you in the comments!
With all my love,