Single girls, I see you. Mostly because I’m just like you- single and so ready for a relationship. So ready to be fully known and loved by a man. Please know, you are beautiful and your standards are not too high.
It’s so hard sometimes to get on social media, isn’t it? Sometimes it’s not too bad for me, but on nights like tonight, it is. Scrolling through endless pictures of happy couples feels like too much to bear when all you are trying to do is survive this waiting period. It feels like all of those women are posting pictures just to rub it in or something, doesn’t it?
Can I tell you something? Or actually a couple of things. It’s totally okay to take breaks from social media just so that you don’t see pictures of others in relationships. It’s also okay to unfollow people in your life that post pictures that always put you down. It’s your feed and you get to choose what to see!
But it’s also okay to feel. I’m not saying to have a full blown pity party where you feel sorry for yourself, but it’s okay to cry once in a while. It’s okay to talk through your feelings with somebody you trust when you just aren’t okay. You don’t have to be put together all the time. But it is also possible to thrive during this season.
Please remember this- you are never alone. Never. There is Somebody that fully knows you and fully loves you. I mean, this Guy died to spend eternity with you. What more could you ask for?
As single girls, we don’t always want to hear that, do we? We know Jesus loves us, and it’s the best thing ever! But what we want is a relationship with a guy here on earth, don’t we? Somebody we can go on evening walks with, eat endless ice cream with, and laugh until our bellies hurt with. We want somebody that can tangibly hold our hand through the tough stuff and be the shoulder we cry on when our world feels like it’s falling apart.
Married people tell us all the time to focus on Jesus while we’re single, don’t they? While it’s amazing advice, sometimes it’s just not what we want to hear. Or it’s not who we want to hear it from. I mean, they have their men.
But you know, they are totally right. We were not made to get married. We were not made to fall in love with another person, no matter how perfect they may seem.
We were made for Jesus. Made to bring glory and honor to His name. To know Him and make Him known. Only in this will we find all our souls truly desire.
God made us to rely fully on Him for our eternal satisfaction and joy. We will never find complete and lasting love outside of Him. Nowhere. Even when you find the man you will spend the rest of your life with, you will still have to look to Jesus for satisfaction. Men are only humans.
So maybe, as single girls, we should be using this special and unique, yet sometimes difficult, season of our lives to grow closer to Jesus. If He’s the only One who can satisfy, even when we’re married, I think it’s a worthwhile pursuit.
I just want to remind you that I’m totally speaking to myself right now too. I don’t do any of this perfectly and I mess up daily. In fact, I was struggling tonight with being single, and that’s why I’m here writing this.
You see, even when we are married, our men cannot be our gods. They will never satisfy us completely, as I mentioned above, and we’ll wear them out if we look to them to fulfill us. They were never meant for that. Men are called to be leaders, but not fulfillers of every desire and need we may have.
So let’s wipe our tear-streaked faces and get to work. Kingdom work. Remember, there are so many men out there waiting for godly women that are willing to work hard for a purpose larger than any of us. Right now, are you truly the woman a man you are waiting for is looking for? If not, there really is a lot of work to be done.
Let’s pursue an intimate relationship with Jesus.
Let’s fall at His feet and find the strength we need to live well and wait well.
Let’s get involved in ministry in order to grow His kingdom.
Let’s seek His will in everything.
Let’s become prayer warriors for everyone around us, including our future husbands.
Let’s be willing to do the hard stuff to get to the good stuff.
Let’s honor Him with everything.
And let’s surrender every second of our lives to Him. He knows what’s best, after all.
Only then will we find true satisfaction and love from the Creator of our souls. To Him be the glory.
In this with you & with all my love,
If you’d like to read more about being a single girl, I have a bunch of posts that you can read here!