For me, I think being content is one of the hardest parts about being single. I know I’m not the only one! A couple of weeks ago I asked some questions on my Instagram story to all of you singles out there, and a lot of people said the hardest thing for them about being single was being content. That and watching all of their friends get in relationships, which I want to write a blog post on soon!
To be honest, I can’t believe I’ve been a singleness blogger for over a year and I haven’t written about being content as a single girl! I guess because it can be difficult for me.
BUT I’m learning it is totally possible. The context of Philippians 4:13 is Paul telling the people of Philippi that they can be content through Christ who gives them strength to do so!
So I want to share 5 tips with you all today that have personally helped me become content as a single girl. I hope they help you as well!
How to Be Content as a Single Girl
1. Find your fulfillment in Christ
This is HUGE. You will never be content if you are looking to a guy to fulfill you. Even when you do get a boyfriend and get married! Like I’ve said dozens of times: your future husband is not meant to complete you. Only Jesus is capable of that!
You will always be hungering after the wrong things in life if you don’t look to Jesus to fulfill you. So to be content, and not hunger after marriage or any other earthly pleasure, fulfillment in Jesus is mandatory!
How do you find fulfillment in Christ? By consistently spending time with Jesus. And when you’re upset, lonely, or even happy, you go to Jesus, not the things of this world.
2. Be grateful
Gratefulness changes everything for me! So many of the Psalms include prayers of gratefulness and thanksgiving. And remember, David’s life wasn’t easy. King Saul was literally trying to kill him. Yet, though all of it, David was grateful.
As single girls, we still have so much to grateful for, even if it doesn’t seem like it at first glance. Just because God hasn’t given us a husband doesn’t mean he hasn’t given us so many blessings.
So be grateful in your prayers, and I also highly recommend starting a gratitude journal! Write a few things that you’re thankful for in it everyday.
My friend Abigail wrote about her “Blessings Journal” in this post!
3. Change your perspective
Remember what your purpose in life is: to know God and make Him known. To seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness (Matthew 6:33). Ultimately, life is not about marriage. Yes, it is a gift from God and He uses it for His glory! But contentment comes from knowing your purpose, and you can live out your purpose right now, even as a single girl. This perspective change can change how you live!
4. Put the focus on others
Honestly, you will never become content as a single girl if you keep the focus on you and what you’re lacking. I love these verses:
“For you were called to freedom, brothers. Only do not use your freedom as an opportunity for the flesh, but through love serve one another. For the whole law is fulfilled in one word: You shall love your neighbor as yourself.”Galatians 5:13-14
So we are commanded to serve others! And as a bonus, it truly helps you become content.
5. Have some fun!
I like to include this tip in a lot of posts about being single! You don’t have to be in a relationship to have fun. It all depends on your attitude! So go on trips with friends and family, try new restaurants, go skydiving if that’s your thing (I’ll just cheer you on from the ground 😉 ), and make memories.
If you live your single years well, you will look back on this season with such fondness.
Oh! And I recently found an amazing singleness blog, and I enjoyed this post: “I Can’t Do That Because I’m Single”: Encouragement for When Your Singleness Feels Limiting.
Go live and have some (God-honoring) fun!
Does being content as a single girl mean that you won’t ever get married? Of course not! You can be content and available, simultaneously. And honestly, good guys would rather a girl that’s content, not desperate.
You don’t have to push marriage out of your mind to become content. It just makes your single years, however long they are, more meaningful and purposeful!
So I hope this post encouraged you! How do YOU stay content as a single girl?
In this with you,