Have you ever hit rock bottom as a single girl? When you feel hopeless and like you can’t go on another day? You feel so lonely and desire to be loved by a man.
Being single can be hard. I get it. Trust me, I get it! There are so many days that I, as a single girl, just want to be loved by a guy. And not just any guy, but my future husband.
Sometimes I feel that everyday that passes I get further away from ever getting married. I begin to lose hope when I focus on myself and my desire to get married. I mean, that’s totally normal though, right?
But what if I told you there was a better way to wait? What if I told you that you can thrive as a single girl? Because it is true! There is a way to not lose hope as a single girl.
How to Not Lose Hope as a Single Girl
1. Change your perspective.
Life isn’t about getting married. I know, that’s not the most popular idea out there. Our culture is so obsessed with finding your soul-mate. But that’s not what we were made for.
Don’t get me wrong!! God made marriage and it is very good. But marriage is not what we were made for. We were made to know God and to make Him known!
Marriage is too little a thing to live for. We cannot place all of our hope and expectations on our future husbands.
But God’s glory- that is something worth living for. As single girls, we have a unique opportunity for it to be just us and God. Change your perspective and live for Him!
So focus on that and your single years will be much more fulfilling.
2. Pray for your future husband.
I have found that praying for my future husband helps me to remain hopeful. I guess because you’re praying for a specific man?
Your future husband needs your prayers. As Christians, we are constantly facing temptations and spiritual warfare. Prayer is such a key part in fighting the battle.
As a single girl, you have a special opportunity to become a prayer warrior for the man you may one day marry. It is such a gift! I’ve heard stories from husbands that say they later find out that their wives were praying for them during such a difficult or important time in their lives. Those single girls had no idea that their husbands were going through something, but they followed the prompting of the Holy Spirit to pray for him. You can be one of those ladies!
You can read this blog post if you need a guideline on what to pray: How to Pray for Your Future Husband!
3. Recall God’s past faithfulness.
I know that you can think of a time when God has been faithful to you, whether it is in a big or small way. Think about getting that job you prayed for or that one time God healed you or somebody you knew.
Remembering what God has done for me in the past is one of the biggest ways I am able to trust Him in the future! I love looking back and seeing how God has fulfilled other hopes that I have had. He is so faithful!
I believe that God has given you those memories and stories to propel you forward in hope. There is so much hope, whether or not marriage is a part of our stories! He has a plan greater and better than we could come up with. We just have to trust Him.
Recalling God’s past faithfulness is so helpful in trusting Him in the future!
4. Remember God’s promises.
This is another great way to remain hopeful. God’s promises will never be broken; He can’t go against His Word! No, He didn’t promise that you will get married one day. But there are so many that promise you a future and a hope (Jeremiah 29:11).
One that I would love to mention is this:
“Delight yourself also in the Lord,
And He shall give you the desires of your heart.”
I do not believe that this verse is telling us that God will give us all that we want. I believe that it means that when we align our hearts with God’s, grow close to Him, and put our full trust in Him, He shapes our desires. We begin to desire what He desires.
Is that not a great promise? Being in line with God’s will is even better than any promise of getting married. This is such a great promise to cling to!
There are so many promises in God’s Word and I just encourage you to look them up! He keeps His Word and can be trusted. Please, go look them up! Google is a great place to start.
5. Surround Yourself with Godly Friends
Community is such an important thing for a single girl! No man is an island, meaning we were not meant to do or live this life alone. Community can shape us, keep us accountable, encourage us, and give us a place to spill our hopes and fears.
So please find these godly friends! It is not easy. Trust me, I know. This has been a struggle of mine for a long time. But it is so worth getting out of your comfort zone.
Find a good group at church, whether that is youth group, college group, or young adult’s group. Make sure they are there to challenge you as well as encourage you. You can’t grow if they always tell you that you are doing great. Have them push you to trust God and love Him more than anything.
And also be that godly friend for other single girls!
I hope this encouraged you to not lose hope as a single girl! This season isn’t easy, but it isn’t harder than any other. Use this season to grow in Jesus and prepare well!
How do you remain hopeful as a single girl? I’d love to hear your thoughts in the comments!
With all my love,