You all know that I am a huge fan of praying for your future husband. In fact, I have a blog post on how to pray for your future husband, as well as a free printable! I also write letters to my future husband occasionally.
I think it’s a great thing to pray for your future husband because he is facing things right now that you may never know about. Spiritual warfare is real, and you get to pray for a man you may spend the rest of your life with. I also think writing to your future husband is sweet. He’ll feel so special and cherished when you give him the letters you’ve written to him over the years.
So you may be a little surprised at the title. There are things you aren’t supposed to do when writing to or praying for your future husband?? Yes, I think there is a right way and a wrong way to do it.
If I’m honest, I never really thought about the wrong way to do it until I read this blog post. I then realized there are a few things to be careful of. I definitely don’t want to scare you off from praying for and writing to him (both can be amazing!), but there are a few things to be careful of.
What Not to Do When Praying for and Writing to Your Future Husband
1. Don’t make him an idol.
I think this is a huge mistake that some people make. You know that blog post I linked earlier? This is what she did. She made the guy that she was writing to her idol, obsessing over him and making him the most important thing in her life.
Don’t make your future husband the most important thing in your life. There are other things in your life right now that God has placed there for a reason. Don’t cheapen your impact now because you’re obsessing over a guy that isn’t in your life.
2. Don’t go to these things before God.
Going off of what I just said, God has to be first in your life. He has to be the One you go to when you are hurting, happy, or just need to talk. When you feel these emotions, writing to him or even praying for him isn’t going to fill any void- it may even make the void larger.
3. Don’t write or pray for a specific guy.
This can be so dangerous! I know I’ve been guilty of praying for a specific guy when I’m praying for my future husband. It can be so easy to picture your crush or boyfriend when praying for or writing to your future husband.
You know those guys I said I prayed for specifically? They’re not important to me anymore. Totally pray for your boyfriend and even write him love letters, but don’t picture him when it’s meant for your future husband.
I would recommend not writing to a specific guy until you’re engaged, and maybe not until closer to the wedding!
4. Don’t write to him every day.
This goes along with everything I’ve been saying. Don’t become so obsessed that you write to him every day.
You know how I said to go to God first when you’re happy, sad, etc? I don’t mean that you shouldn’t share emotions or events with your future husband, just be mindful that God is first. So if you have something happy to share with him, share it in a letter!
I do think its okay to pray for him every day, if you feel led to! Again, just don’t become obsessed with him!
5. Don’t become entitled.
This is huge. I want to say this in the most loving way possible- you are not promised a boyfriend or husband. That’s not what life is all about. It’s about knowing God and making Him known.
So if praying for and writing to your future husband makes you feel entitled to a man, you should probably take a step back.
Praying for and writing to your future husband is all about being faithful if God does plan for you to get married.
So how do you pray for or write to your future husband?
I’ve mentioned a lot of things about what not to do, so I want to quickly mention the best way to pray for and write to him!
1. Know your boundaries.
If you are in a rough place emotionally, spending time with God is a much better option. Know when you need a break and when it will cause you to become impatient.
2. Keep an open mind.
Like I said, we’re not promised marriage. So please remember this and pray for him or write to him with open hands and an open heart.
3. Focus on his heart.
Don’t let your mind wander about what he’s going to look like, etc. When praying for and writing to your future husband, focus on his heart and love for Jesus. Keep your letters pure 😉
4. Let them be an overflow from your time with God.
So so important! I think the best letters I have personally written have been after I spent some time with Jesus and made Him my priority. Only then will my letters and prayers be more about God’s plan than my own plan.
Well there you go! Have you ever thought about any of these things or realized you were doing any of them? I think we all have one time or another.
I want to end with this post by one of my favorite bloggers, Phylicia Masonheimer: Why I’m Glad I Journaled to My Future Husband.
In this with you,